Today was a rough day… It’s hard to hear from my parents when they start realizing all the bumps and obstacles they will be facing because their child’s different…

It’s not really the words people say… they are always cordial… it’s what they don’t say…

it’s what they are thinking… their stares…

Then again… it’s also what my parents’ are thinking too… “Does he have to do that right at that moment?” Does she have to do that with that kid… geez”

See my kids are either overly sensitive or not sensitive at all… most of my parents move towards becoming oversensitive… so the smallest mistake that any given child could make in social situations becomes a huge error that haunts them for the rest of the afternoon, evening, or even week…

That mistake may or may not be related to being different… but my parents’ fear the worst… FEAR is a big word here…

Some have a hard time dealing with their fears…

It’s so hard… because when you have kids who are different… but I don’t mean physically different… I mean socially awkard… or maybe your kid’s cordial but socially different… or when you think something’s not right with that kid… that’s the kind of different I am talking about here…

That kind of different is a really hard concept for others to grasp… Most people, if not all, people want to see, hear, touch, and feel the difference… say like a broken leg or maybe a hole in the kid’s heart… or well a physical reaction like hives or something…

but when you’re child’s different but people don’t know why… they start to judge and my parents and their kids start to feel singled out and, ultimately, left out… they realize the social groups in the child’s classroom have formed and they also know who’s been to what birthday party and who hasn’t…

These parents are also realizing the social developmental milestones which their child may miss or have limited access to because they are different and following social rules is one of their weaknesses…

These kids who are different have parents who love them and who are doing the best that can given their situation… They are working harder than any other parent to help their child fit in and have a successful childhood, academic life… all of this in order to ensure a successful adulthood…

Because in the end that’s our goal for our children… a successful, independent, happy, and loving adulthood…

But those parents who don’t understand why the child’s different don’t see or maybe can’t understand everything that “different” kid’s parent is doing to help their kid fit in…

Maybe we should be a little less critical of the parents we encounter and of the parents of the children we encounter in our daily lives..

Why is that when you’re pregnant everyone is so nice and sweet to you… they are so encouraging and helpful… but then we the baby comes out and begins to grow people become critical, unaccepting, intolerable, inconsiderate, and disdain towards the most natural and developmentally appropriate and/or inappropriate behaviors of your child…

Shouldn’t more people show understanding or compassion for the parents???? Especially if you’ve been there and done that… Not every parent is equal… Not every parent is the same… but every parent has the same unconditional love for their children and should be able to understand what the parent’s going through in those moments…

Maybe we need to spend more time educating our parents rather than judging them… Every parent could use some boost to improve their weaknesses through their strengths… I mean it’s a skill which is gradually learned over time… Skills incorporate strengths and weakness… right?

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